Thursday, 19 June 2008

Urban Educated Women Nowadays

Well, the title says it all. Many of them, the numbers are growing, still thank God not all of them, are becoming more and more...

If you ever got close to this specific group of women, up until the point of asking their hand, you will usually find that they won't accept harsh treatment. Well of course, almost all major religion and culture teach us not to. Including our sanity and consciousness. But they steer this act up to the direction that they won't even accept it should they be scolded, even for what apparently is a mistake, an over the limit one (so the man scold her), on their behalf. Facing this truth, they usually chose celibacy. Fancying that they could afford living without men. "What's men for? I can live without any of them!", they are use to say.

That's exactly what men are for. Logically, yes, if life is just work-eat-having fun-sex-sleep, to be repeated everyday, you might think you don't need men. Then, without men, women won't be able to bore children and the one saying the previous sentence won't even born.

Then, where is the fun in life without sex? Yes, you can have sex without marriage, but you may not. All research, conducted by health, social, and other fields scientists, even the ones we can conduct by ourselves in daily lives, simply show how destructive free sex is. God doesn't forbid it with no reason. Good ones. You simply endangers yourself of phisically contract many disease, horrible ones (mind you, condoms simply reduce the risk. It's not totally safe. Its pores still bigger than hiv aids virus), while mentally you turn yourself into something even animals would be embarrased of. You kill your own heart, by denying what you feel toward your sex mate when you're coupling. That any sane person will do so with the utmost joy by doing so with love. And love includes responsibility.

While without ever having sex, delivering and breast milk feeding baby, women are also prone to several cancers.

Many says women can do what men can do in terms of jobs in life. Well, life's not that simple. There's the saying "why women can't read map". I've proven this. There are things only women can do, such as delivering babies. There are things that men do best, like being soldiers. Doesn't necessarily mean women can't do it, but we can not hang our country's fate to some persons having menstruation while in the midst of battle, for example, correct?

It's not about men are higher than women. In islam women are actually higher. Women being confined not to travel recklessly, for instance, so they can be guarded against evil men. If a poor family have extra money, their boy is put to college first instead of the girl, not to discriminate the girls, but to prepare that boy for tougher jobs, while the girls can be kept safe with their parents.

Do you think a president is a more noble person than a farmer? Isn't it just positions? The president carries a bigger, heavier responsibility, not guaranteeing he be a clean person (just take a look at some of u.s.a's presidents), and still he cannot live without the food produced by farmers.

So the same goes with girls and boys. They are not meant to be competed. Each have their own plusses and minuses. We are simply incomparable in some instances. We share our similarities and also differences. And we need each other to fill each other's gaps in order to get the best of this and the next life.

Ever thought of that, any of you out there?

The Gap

So, several weeks ago i bought some apet/cucur cake. Indonesian traditional light meal. The seller, an elderly figure, gave me 7 cakes for the price of 6. Imagine that. 1$ roughly equals idr 10.000 nowadays. 1 cake costs just idr 500. What fortune he'd make with such price?

I started asking myself then. That kind of small time vendor. An another sandal and shoe repairer who charged me for just idr 7000, while the same kind of repair would take idr 50.000 in malls. A fried bean curd seller gave me extra for already cheap fried bean curd and other fried snacks. Those people...The small time people, the have not, the way we call them worldwide, ordinary people, they gave their service or sell their goods for such low price, in this harsh economic time. While the rich ones, especially the ones who take selling, be it goods or services, as their occupation, ever you looked at them? Not all of them, but as days go by more and more of them...selling their goods, sometimes goods or services of luxuries, not the ones classified as main or even secondary necessities, at such a high price that everybody with a bit clean consciousness would see it as improper. And even still they strive to gain more and more fortune by cheating people if necessary and possible. By tripling the real price, by not telling the truth to the buyers, etc.

The small people, whose life is logically harsher and harder than could they be more sincere? And they who gain enormous fortune and still feel not enough...what are those fortunes for? For example, a friend told me of this luxurious apartment in Jakarta where one day rent goes for idr 2 million or roughly $200. One day rent. RENT, not sold. Where did they get those money? It might not be kosher/halal money after all. Please notice, hereby i refer to people who rent excessively expensive appartments in pursue of luxury, lifestyle, etc. Not the ones who have small choices in choosing living place, if they stll have any. Like the owner of the company handling the Nike license here, while Nike, if it was true, employed under age children! They are just like those army and rebel in Latin America and Africa! Employing underage children, for, of course, under standard salary...!?! They got those money from abusing people!

And those money, which might not give them the "enough" hire that kind of apartment, for example...? Do you know how un-healthy living in an apartment is? Mentally, you don't communicate enough in healthy manner. Grooming individualism. Physically, you don't get in touch with enough sunshine, fresh air...Not to mention apartments are under constant danger from earthquake. Imagine, about 6 Richter scale and everybody come tumbling down in not so funny fashion.

Hey, i received a news. Staying for suspended time i any place far from the ground will weaken our bones, because we become separated by quite a distance from earth's center of gravity.

Won't it be better to look at the small people? Taking them as reminder, that God permits, we can AND SHOULD do better in and for this life. We can employ them, if we're that powerful. We might have to give them education courses first, but in the end we won't just have some new dependable employees, we'll also be diminishing un-employment in our own nation!

With the fortune we make, we can spare some amount to help others with their education and businesses, provided they are small and medium ones. We help others empower themselves, in turn they will help us too, God permits, with God knows what way. Will be a sweet surprise.

Sincerity. To erase the gap. Clarity of goal in our life. Let's do it.